TIMING IS EVERYTHING

Nobody can tell you when to make the first move. It's just something you have to figure out for yourself. But, if you're even the slightest bit tuned in to your girl, you'll know when the time is right.

Here are some tips to help you test the waters before you take the plunge:
Try holding her hand. Simple, safe and very, very effective. If she lets you, the traffic sign has changed to - hey, hey hold it - not green, but amber.
Start touching her casually - In a conversation, helping her to enter a restaurant etc. If she doesn't move away or look uncomfortable - and who knows, she may even show that she likes it, things are warming up between the two of you.
Set up a situation, like teaching her to play pool or showing her a function on the Windows XP software - where you have to be really physically close to her. Again , watch her reaction and you will get your answer.
Ask. This is drastic, not very subtle and can backfire. But, if you are good friends and very comfortable with each other, and you can ask the question without being crass, crude or offensive ("how about it, babe?" will get you kicked out on your butt!), it may work

you're not ready to make a commitment, she may say no even though she's very attracted to you.
• They're scared. Of your intentions, of the future of the relationship, of being considered "easy", of becoming vulnerable etc.


When?
When you're comfortable enough with each other to be able to laugh together. When you can stand close to her without her moving away. When she lets her hand remain in yours just a second longer than it takes to cross the road. And if still not sure how to gauge when the timing's right, take this quick test to find out.

Where?
Girls love romance, so make sure that you don't try to get up close and personal in the middle of a traffic jam. Set the scene, make sure the mood's just right, and let her get swept away by the moment. Girls dig soft breezes, moonlight (or candlelight, in a crunch), romantic music and the likes. But hey, if the chemistry between the two of you has reached a critical mass (and you'll know it from the sizzle that happens when you're within an arms length of each other), it could even be in the anthropology section of that dusty old college library.

How?
No matter how experienced you are at the art of kissing, the first time you kiss that special girl will be like a revelation. And how sensitive you are to the emotions that rush through her head when your lips touch hers, will determine whether the relationship's going to blossom or end with that one kiss.

Want that kiss to last forever? That's a tall order, but here are some tips to help you prolong the pleasure.


Make sure that your breath smells good. To be on the safe side, pop a mint or a breath freshener. If you've drunk some alcohol or are a smoker, be doubly sure.

Start softly, gently, tenderly, just touching your lips to hers. Just enjoy the feeling of her lips and let her feel yours.

Test her response. If you feel her kissing you back, then carry on, exploring your way around... go slow, and revel in the enjoy the sensations. Remember, the important thing is to enjoy the kiss and not score.

Be patient. A lot of girls, especially on their first kiss are shy and scared. Make her feel comfortable and loved, maybe by just holding her in your arms before you start kissing.


And from here on, you can move on to…well, to whatever works for the two of you. Kissing is like having a conversation with someone (only, more fun!!), if you aren't communicating, it won't work. Again you will have to figure it out because what's a great kiss for one is just a slobber for another. Just work it out by trial and yes, sometimes error! (You could just ask her what she likes or tell her what you like but be sure to do it in softly, gently, or you could really ruin the mood.)